It's interesting how people wonder how married life is. This winter a very young adult man was married and my question to him was, "So, what are you learning about married life this week?" I can wrap my brain around that question, but I think people are wondering if married life is great. And although married life can be great at times, it is also very challenging. Maybe people don't expect that. I guess that's why it's hard to answer that question. But the thing is, we are two sinful humans trying to help each other get to heaven! How could that be easy?! The transitions of going from a single woman to a married woman caring for a husband, teen, and dog, is not easy. I lived on my own for a long time and was responsible for myself mostly. That doesn't mean it's not beautiful and wonderful, because it is. I love our little life. I love having my husband as my companion and supporter. I miss him throughout the day. We laugh often. I enjoy spending time with my step-daughter. It is exciting seeing who she is and who she is becoming each day. Our dog is a beam of sunshine in my life, although I've never cared for a dog before. Balancing my desires along side what they need is something new. It continues to be a learning experience. It is a dying and rising experience at times as I sometimes put what I want last or further down on the list. Cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry doesn't stop. Now it's, "What do you want for supper?" instead of what do I want for supper. I can't worry about just me anymore. It's been 16 years since high school and going off to college. There is something so wonderful about this, because it means I have something special in my life and they do, too. I'm in love with our house and yard on .5 acre in the city! It's 2 minutes to the grocery store, Walgreens, and my bank. Our house isn't crowded by other homes; it's well landscaped; came with a pool and a super large yard; and was move-in ready with some changes we'll be making eventually. I love sitting in my "haven." Here's a picture of what I see when I look straight out at the yard. There are weeds to be pulled all the time, bushes to be trimmed again, a pool and gardens to maintain and enjoy, a dead tree to come down, and an electric dog fence to go in. I was blessed with a dad that did all the yard work, but I am learning to do some of this now. Despite all that needs to be done, it is such a blessing to come home to a quiet, beautiful yard to relax in. Every week there is a surprise that awaits me. Here are the latest blessings: We are learning how to do life together. These are just some thoughts and areas in construction: Are we communicating well and often enough? What can wait? What's most important? How do we talk about this? Why can't it be the way I want it? After all, it's the "right" way. How are we going to make ends meet? How do we fight fair? Will we get better at working through conflicts? We should pray together. Finally the house isn't a disaster! What do they need? I still need to organize x, y, and z. When will our basement not be full of so many boxes? We need to have a rummage sale. Yay, we are making it to church together! I need to fit working out into my new schedule. And as many of you know, the list could go on-and-on in the mind of a woman/new wife/step-mom. The best thing about this is our sacramental marriage where we made a covenant with each other and God. It was a beautiful ceremony/Mass. But what is more beautiful is how that covenant, prayer, and the Eucharist will help us become better spouses and parents. Each day is a new day. We are friends and lovers, which means we want to make this work and get better at it everyday. So, how is married life? It's hard work, a joy, and a blessing. I look forward to growing old with this man through the ups and downs knowing God will be with us...leading us always. Support from family and friends is so important! Please pray for us!
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So this is me...I am a woman who lives with passion, self-reflection, and a desire to do God's will.
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