I can envision myself in my wedding dress with my hair and makeup done. I imagine the feeling. I think about seeing Matt for the first time and finally walking down the isle. All the emotions - joy, happiness, love. There are so many moments I "day dream" about that which bring me such excitement. Seeing it all and knowing Matt and I will be married, helps these days of waiting and planning go by. Surely some loved their wedding planning and would do it again if they could. Maybe I'm just late in the game when "everyone" was getting married and talking about the fine details of wedding planning. Or just maybe no one really talks about it.
It's not that I just want these days to go by, but I so just want to be married. Although there's some marriage planning yet to be done, the wedding planning is not my cup of tea. I have enjoyed parts, and I have learned to take breaks throughout so I don't get so hyper focused. However, I do think I could have been more prepared for planning if someone had told me more about it. Here is what I am learning from wedding planning: BUDGET Most people are spending on average of $20,000-$25,000 for their wedding in WI. I knew this. I didn't really know what a wedding would look like for a much small budget. I didn't know how hard the budgeting would be and what it would feel like to be on a much smaller budget. I didn't know how hard it would be to compromise often and go with the cheaper option or sometimes eliminate somethings all together. What I know well is the fear of going over budget at the end for some reason and running up a credit card.
PLANNING Planning starts and continues from the days you begin it. I read this somewhere. It is 100% true. Dang this truth! lol It seems like people are planning everything so early these days. A year out, you're late with some bookings! Matt and I started planning 1.5 years out. Now we are at a year. Wedding planning includes marriage preparation. I feel the pressure to do both. The marriage preparation is the most important, but I feel like it gets the least attention. It's easier to plan for a wedding. When you don't live together, you definitely have to set time aside to figure out tough stuff like budgets, relationship topics, where to live, etc.
THE REAL DEAL VS. THE DREAM Pintrest is amazing for wedding planning. I have my hairstyle ideas pinned. I have makeup ideas pinned. I showed my cake lady ideas of what I was looking for. Pintrest is very useful, BUT it can be very crazy. Crazy because it creates the dream wedding verses the real wedding. Know that it can be helpful, but keep in mind that it can feed a fantasy wedding that may never be. PEOPLE'S EXPECTATIONS If I didn't have a love for the Catholic Church and a sacramental marriage, Matt and I may have had a very small quick wedding. Elopement? Maybe. We will not be young getting married. I will be 35 and Matt will be 43. All this planning to have a very special day is important, but it's not the most important. The most important part of that day is the wedding Mass. Everything else will hopefully be "icing on the cake." Almost everyone has something to say about one thing or another and has a personal expectation of how something should go. I'm guilty of this myself. From my experience and others, I've learned the following:
Here is some other advice: Lessons Learned through Wedding Planning Wedding Planning: Lessons I Learned Along the Way
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